I can’t think of a better title to give to this article than the one it already has. I know the title is complicated, because it contain two important words in decision making and other aspects of life, No and Yes.
Even some schools of thought, in their own perception and understanding translate the words into different words like Negative and Positive, to simplify the understanding of these two words in there own philosophy teaching.
Many has also written extensively, given reasons and ideas why using either of the word constantly will help improve life, some with reasonable proves to backup there reasons.
Whatever it’s, these two words are must use in decision making.
But the questions is, which should we make as a lifestyle? Which should we use? and which should we not use?
Yeah, It’s cool to associate with positivity, it’s good to always say Yes, so many things require our YES, our future, dreams, appointment, offers, a pitch, change and more, but whatever case it maybe Yes has to be said when it’s right, right for the individual.
Also, It’s actually right not just right but wise to say No, when No is required. Someone once said.. “the word No, guards time, time the thread from which we weave our creations”. Human are naturally opportunist, many will come with offer, request and demand which really requires you to say No.
NO, not because you don’t care or you don’t want to help out or because it’s not important to you, but because your time is precious and requires value to exchange for it.
NO, because there are lots of creations you need to weave and you will be needing the time they are lobbying to take away from you.
NO, because many will always want to take the advantage of your yes’s.
Whatever it’s, some situations requires a big NO.
But Not a cowardice NO, not a No based on lack of courage or whatever to face your responsibilities, not a No based on the fear to face the unknown, without you facing the unknown you will never be known.. every man need to work with or in faith many times in his life.
But No to anything that doesn’t in anyway contribute to your plans, mission, vision and purpose of existence.
It’s obvious many things will influence your ability to say YES and NO at a given time, things like your emotion, beliefs, environment and others, these also show that circumstances will always determine the usage of the two words.
But whatever case it maybe, put yourself and your purpose first, you know yourself better, you know what you want, if the Yes’s doesn’t add value in anyway, if it doesn’t help you to help someone, if it doesn’t help you pay back for a good deeds by someone, if it doesn’t push you in the positive direction, say a big NO.