Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” -Anonymous
One way to go about life is to keep trying things until you find what works.
Fulfilment is what we are seeking for in life, not just money. We chase money so that we can buy experiences or possession which we hope will bring us fulfillment.
But i have come to realise that some of the things that bring fulfilment to our life aren’t bought with money, they are the free gift of nature, they are things we freely have that we don’t need to pay for, like family and friendship, these things we enjoy free of charge, are source of fulfilment in life.
Music, books, posts and movies can also point to us to the path of finding fulfilment in life. Just like the movie “3 idiot” did for me.
The Movie “3 idiot” changed my life, it was one movie that inspired me find my passion in life.
The first time I saw the movie was years ago, around 2013, the movie released date was on 23 December 2009. I re-watched it in 2015 when I was in school, I watched it again recently, this time I was inspired by the lessons it’s trying to pass across, so I decided to write about it.
Here are some valuable lessons you can take away from the movie “3 idiot”
A. Don’t be afraid to challenge any convention that is not empowering you.
Most of our parents want us to live by their rules and beliefs. But trust me, most (if not all) of them did not follow the rules or beliefs of their own father.
My dad didn’t follow the footsteps of his father. According to my dad, my grandfather, whom died years before I was born, was a pagan. If he had followed the rules or beliefs of his father, I probably might be somewhere shouting “long live Amadioha” :).
I don’t mean disrespect here, our parents deserve some respect and attention, but once we are 18, we deserve to find our own calling, our passion and also follow our instincts. We need to find a way to let them know that just as they have lead their lives, we are also entitled to learn and lead our own life.
Their duty is to teach us what they need to and guild us to an extent and our own duty is to find, explore and lead our life.
B. Study to be accomplished not to be affluent
I applied for Business Administration back in 2013, but I was offered Marketing. I didn’t question it, as a matter of fact, I was very happy. I have had stories of people who have tried for years to get into school but couldn’t.
After dropping out school for many years, I was excited to get back to school, and more importantly, I’m going to be called a graduate and I will obtain a diploma.
This is just the problem “to get Diploma or Certificate”, and the lies we have been told “go to school, get a degree and get a job” the thing is the strategy “go to school, get a degree, so you can get a good job” doesn’t work anymore, everything has changed and is still changing.
But, scarcity of job is not the only problem we have with the “go to school strategy” the mentality we wear to school is also a big problem.
If certificate is removed from the merits list of 4 years in college, most people won’t even near the school gate. Because most of us don’t even have passion for the course we are studying.
Most people’s goal is just the certificate, they will just cram, write and pass the exam, then forget everything after two days (if not one hour) after the exams. It’s like this mostly because the system didn’t make it look important.
One of problem is, we just want to be known as someone who went to school, instead of being known as someone who is informed.
C. Don’t chase success, chase excellence
Success can not be universally described, a state of success for you can be a state of failure for some other person.
Success in the nature of how most people sees it is always on the run, the more you chase it the faster it runs, it can be an endless race for most people, and since you can’t win the race you can’t feel successful
There are people who are doing something different regards to success, some people have redefined success and are celebrating every minute because of the little things they are accomplishing each day, for me, it’s like celebrating the completion of this post.
The best way to meet up with success is to always try your best to be the best you can be. 1% improvement every day is enough.
D. Friends are men greatest bosomGood friends are like a pillar that will support you when the bricks of your life have all falling apart. If you find one, you have obtained favour from God. Click To Tweet
They support you, not really with money or praises, but other supporting equipments.
I’m kind of feeling like a scam right now by talking about what good friends are all about. Because I have friends that I haven’t check on for awhile. But the most important thing is that they still hold their spot in my heart.
Good friends are like a pillar that will support you when the bricks of your life have all fallen apart. If you find one, you have obtained favour from God.
E. Fear is one of man greatest obstacles
Fear, the jailer of destiny, he who overcomes it has become a free man.
Right now, I’m scared of how people will react to this post, what if they criticize it or what if they don’t like it. Always “what if” I wonder how many people this kind of thought have hindered from living their dreams.
If we can overcome that part of our brain that keeps looking for reasons why things won’t work, we might create something meaningful with our lives. Seth Godin calls that part of the brain “the lizard” it’s always good at seeing why it can’t be done, even when everything is showing us green.
Rancho said to the other 2 idiots, “do you know why I’m doing well with my studies? do you know why I’m at the top of the class?
“The 2 idiots said no. He told them “because I’m doing what I love, I’m following my passion.”
He said to one of the idiots, photography is what you love doing, get out of here and go chase your passions, stop wasting your time in the engineering department at Imperial College.
The other idiots thought he has gotten a point to floor Rancho, “ok telling me” he spoke out “I love engineering why are my not doing well?”
“Let me see your hand” Rancho requested, five fingers, but 6 to 8 rings, probably one for good luck, one for exam success, one to score As, who knows what others are for. “How can you live today when you are scared of tomorrow?” Rancho asked.
It’s impossible to succeed when you are living in fear, even when what you are doing is your passion.
At the end they listened to Rancho, 1 idiot followed his dreams, the other idiot let go of his fears.
Where they all successful? I don’t know. Where they happy or fulfilled? the movie was a story told from the point of them living their dream life, so I think they are happy and fulfilled, which is what matters most.
Follow your passion, do what you love, study to learn, improve 1% every day, make good friends and let go of fears and see where all these things will take you in the next 10 years, I’m on the challenge too.
Please, take a second and share these lessons with friends.